I think, as a general rule on a daily basis, that we underestimate the power of habits in our lives. We have a particular pattern of responding when someone in authority gives us an instruction. We respond to someone who is angry at us in pretty much the same way every time. We have the same thoughts every morning when the alarm goes off about what our day is going to look like or how we feel. We get so ‘in the habit’ of doing things a certain way, we forget that we even have a choice about it. We think it’s ‘just the way I am’, or ‘normal’. We don’t even stop to question why we do what we do.
‘The reality is that our habits really affect who we are. I love Gandhi’s saying: ‘Your beliefs become your thoughts, Your thoughts become your words, Your words become your actions, Your actions become your habits, Your habits become your values, Your values become your destiny.’
This quote indicates that we have more control over our destiny than we often give ourselves credit for, and part of the journey of reaching our desired destiny is taking responsibility for the habits we allow ourselves to continue in each and every day.
A thought worth reflecting on maybe? Do you have a habit that is keeping you doing the same thing you don’t want to do? Or making you feel negative towards yourself or someone else? Or is keeping you in the same place when you want to change? Maybe take a moment to journal about it today, or do some creative representation of that feeling or habit. Think about how you’d like things to be different, and make some plans towards what you can do differently. Have a chat to your Reconnect caseworker about it; two minds are often better than one!