Someone once said “Some people come into our lives and quickly go. Some stay for awhile and leave footprints on our hearts. And we are never, ever the same.”
It’s often so easy to invest time and energy in relationships which ultimately disappoint us. At other times we might not realise what a good friend we had until the relationship has fizzled out from lack of attention. But every now and again a friendship comes along that touches us and changes us, and which we value our whole lives.
Friendships are like plants (cliché I know): water them and they will flourish, neglect them and they will wilt and fade away. Knowing what kind of traits you value in a friend can help you work out what relationships you want to put your time and energy into. It can help you to know which relationships you are happy to let go of when you both start to move on, or which you want to rescue before that happens. It also helps you to know what kind of a friend you want to be.
Everyone has different values when it comes to what makes a good friend. I look for someone I can trust; who follows through with what they say they will do; who accepts me just as I am; someone who I can have fun with and laugh with; and someone I can sit in comfortable silence with.
What do you look for in a friend?